➡️ So, in order to get out of the role of a victim, you should stop complaining or wait for salvation, develop the skills of confident behavior, and internal strong adult support. It is also very important to be able to show aggression, say “no” and defend your boundaries, because the main feature of the sacrificial position is the suppression of anger and aggression. If you recognize yourself in the role of a victim, stop for a second and think: “Why am I choosing this again now? Will what I receive compensate for my energy and physical costs?

➡️ Developing empathy, respect, and the ability to hear the point of view of others will help change the role of the aggressor. If you recognize an aggressor in yourself, ask yourself questions: “Who am I teaching? Is everyone really stupid, and I’m the only smart one?” Give others the opportunity to live their lives. Work through your aggression, perhaps as a child you were subjected to physical and psychological violence and this is a consequence of your behavior. Learn to negotiate. They are more effective than humiliation.

➡️ To stop getting involved in the Karpman triangle through the role of rescuer, stop giving unsolicited advice

and work through the fear of being unwanted. Just ask others questions: “What kind of help do you need and do you need it at all? How can I help you? Do you need my advice or something else…?”

Rescuers should realize: everyone must go their own way through their own mistakes. Therefore, do not impose yourself if you are not asked. Learn to feel your boundaries and the boundaries of other people. Keep yourself busy with interesting things and then you won’t have the need to participate in other people’s “series.” Learn to be needed by yourself, and then there will be no need to gain a sense of your own need by “doing good.” None of the “players” in Karpman’s triangle develops as a person, but simply moves from role to role. To get out of this triangle, you first need to realize your role and stop yourself several times a day and ask the question “why am I doing this now?”