For me, one of the hardest things in life is to ask for help, and I’m not talking about “pass me the salt,” but about what you need most and precisely at a critical moment, when all resources have been exhausted. This is difficult. Receiving help when something is offered to me is not so difficult, the very fact of the request is difficult. People are not telepaths and do not always realize that I am in a difficult situation. For me, asking for essentials is showing my weakness, my vulnerability. And I don’t really like it. I prefer to appear strong and self-sufficient. Precisely “to seem”, because I am not like that 24/7. When I dared and still asked for help and was not refused, it was the most valuable gift of my life. And I will remember these people for a long time and remember them with great gratitude. Basically, I only asked in moments of extreme need, when there was absolutely no other way. When I received something, I was so overwhelmed with gratitude that the impulse to return what I received prompted me to give even more to the world. It seems to me that there is no need to be afraid that you will not be able to repay the help provided. I am always for direct communication, and it seems to me right to ask what you can do for this person so as not to be in debt, maybe your service, your work, or what you can do well will be useful to him. Mostly people do not expect anything in return except gratitude, and sometimes, after some time, you get a chance to provide this help to someone else and thus the balance is restored. Each time I dare to ask more often and am no longer so afraid of refusal. In fact, “asking” and “taking” are woven from the same energy. If I don’t feel worthy of accepting help or am afraid of rejection, I won’t be able to ask.

I noticed that this is a very common problem. Many of my clients face the difficulty of asking for themselves from friends, from parents, from the world… Women often find it difficult to directly ask their men for what they need, they think that the man will guess, and if that doesn’t work out, then they get offended or play silent games. This also includes asking for psychological help. Turning to a specialist is, to some extent, admitting that I myself cannot. In many areas of our lives, we need help, even just at the everyday level, to sit with a child, talk about our difficult financial situation, ask for help if we feel bad… The inability to ask is associated with pride, with the fear of showing our weakness, vulnerability, appear small and helpless. And the fact that people should be self-sufficient, successful, strong and smiling 365 days a year is an imposed myth. Everyone has moments when they can’t do it alone. Vulnerability makes us more human in the eyes of others and brings us closer together. So ask and it will be given to you! But without falling into the position of a victim or a parasite.